Resources

 

Resources for porn/sex addicts:

https://addorecovery.com/ – I didn’t have this option.  “Addict” was his crutch, not his first step in transforming.  ADDO is the whole package.  Him, Her, US.  Get informed, take action, move through this mess into healing and recovery.

http://fightthenewdrug.org/  I was starting to think that maybe porn wasn’t all normal and natural and harmless, but was I just a broken, spiteful wife?  Turns out, nope.  Because Science, y’all.  Learn the facts, make your choice, take a stance.

http://www.ashlynnandcoby.com/  An unknown hand placed this story in my sights and newsfeed.  Bless you, unseen angel.  I wanted their story.  I wanted him to choose me.  It can happen for you, here’s how.

 

Resources for survivors

http://www.togethernessproject.org/  So so many times I wished I could find one other person…just one.  But having a husband who strayed, wasn’t kinship enough.  Where were the others who had uncovered innumerable lies, and countless acts of betrayal?  I found them.  Publicly and privately gathered together; recounting, and uplifting, and very literally sympathizing.  These are my people.

http://fightthenewdrug.org/  I was starting to think that maybe porn wasn’t all normal and natural and harmless, but was I just a broken, spiteful wife?  Turns out, nope.  Because Science, y’all.  Learn the facts, make your choice, take a stance.

http://www.ashlynnandcoby.com/  An unknown hand placed this story in my sights and newsfeed.  Bless you, unseen angel.  I wanted their story.  I wanted him to choose me.  It can happen for you, here’s how.

https://bloomforwomen.com/pages/index.php – I didn’t know there was a name.  I thought I was just psychotic.  It’s called Betrayal Trauma.  Here I learned that I was less crazy than I was feeling/behaving completely normally in an absolutely abnormal, effed up situation.  Watch their videos, follow their stories, let them talk you off the crazy cliff.

https://addorecovery.com/ – I didn’t have this option.  “Addict” was his crutch, not his first step in transforming.  ADDO is the whole package.  Him, Her, US.  Get informed, take action, move through this mess into healing and recovery.

 

Resources for ED

http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/ – start here.  Understand these complex disorders and get or give help.  Until I found ED specific therapist, groups and dieticians, my recovery was stagnant and ED was in charge.

http://www.jennischaefer.com/ – You’ve tried it.  Attempting to explain the rubbish that lives in your head every day.  When comments like “Just eat” or “Just stop eating” leave you banging your head against the wall, let Jenni lovingly and laughably tell your story for you.  Her books Life Without Ed and Good Bye Ed, Hello Me gave me a kindred spirit, beautifully describing what I had previously thought were my own, lonely thoughts.  She is a perfect presenter and teacher for friends and loved ones.

Not so coincidentally, 6 months into my recovery I was given two books that I feel finally moved me from cautiously and faintheartedly going into each day, to purposefully and confidently acknowledging my perfect presence in every moment.  I don’t care who you are…you need this.  Be present, feel love, give gratitude, find hope.

Books that have helped me

Tao
Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao – By Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
thepower
The Power – By Rhonda Byrne

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